When we first started dating John often said I should be moulded into his perfect partner (or wife now).
It first started when he changed my clothes, banning jeans and trousers and insisting I wear skirts, dress and no bare legs. The clothing them continued, out went my trainers and in came ballet pumps and heels. I grew my hair longer and took a bit more care of my nails. I shaved down there.
Then there is the sexual side. I am still learning to please him sexual but can still be crabby about certain things. I understand his time is sometimes limited and he wants to just relieve himself quickly and then go, leaving me a little frustrated but I supposed I am pleased that I have pleased him.
I do go along with his wishes, I want to please him and if I am honest I enjoy having less responsilbilty but I am more accountable to him now.
So we were talking about all this over the weekend and he said I have not let go of my past. He sees glimmers in me of me being childish. When he first mentioned this I argued the point but he actually wants me to more child like. He hates me seeing rude stuff on TV and magazines and has cenesored it. He wants me to be worry free of lifes troubles but if I do mess up in the house by breaking rules then that warrants a spanking.
I am kept very busy running the house and have even started to grow my own vegetables. I do all this when he is at work and wonder how I did half of the stuff when I worked. When hes home he wants me to "me", ie be the grily, child like housewife he has moulded. Does that sound strange. Other examples, he chooses for me when we eat out and only he talks to the waiter. He tells me when to go to bed and often at weekends chooses what I will wear and how I should have my hair (he has got a thing for me wearing a ponytail or bunches right now).
Just wondering if this dynamic or parts of it occur in any other relationship. I am not complaining, I am head of heels in love with John!
As a man who likes a submissive woman that wears dresses and skirts and pantyhose I have to say that from your posts, your husband sounds like a douche-bag control freak who can't seem to keep his mother in line. It doesn't sound like he has a lot of concern for what's best for you, which seems to be the cornerstone of a TIH or HOH relationship. Rather it sounds like he just imposes whatever kinks he is into. By the way, he has a pantyhose fetish, if you haven't figured it out. I get wanting to dress you up in dresses as I am the same way. But not letting you wear pants on a hike or in cases where your safety and protection should come first is not healthy. His preoccupation with your previous boyfriends and such is a big sign about his insecurities, jealousy, and control issues over you.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, your posts don't make it sound like you are really that happy with the arrangement.